I have been homeschooling for what seems like forever. It is hard to believe it has only been ten years. And it is even harder to believe I have close to twenty more to go.
Its been a sanctifying process for me as well as my children. The Lord has been gracious and continues to grant us grace to get through each and every day, month, and year. He has given me so many lessons in this journey so far and today I want to share those with you.
These lessons have not come easy. They have come through very hard days, but the Lord is faithful to continue molding us to be more like Him. Praise the Lord! In this post, I want to highlight my top 10 lessons for you mom. I want you to be encouraged whether you are just starting out or need a reminder of the lessons the Lord has taught you.
10 homeschool lessons in no particular order.
Do not sacrifice relationships for academics
I have shed tears on many a day, and I have lost my cool over the academics. Friends, I urge you to step back in those moments. Take a look at your curriculum and evaluate its effectiveness as well as usefulness. If the lesson, class, or subject puts the relationship with my child at risk, I nix it. At the end of the day, I’m not willing to sacrifice my relationship for any subject.
Remember why you are in the fight
My fight is to equip the next generation to be mighty warriors for the kingdom. Academics are not the main thing. Remember your why’s. Remember your fight. Put it on your refrigerator make is pretty. Make a purpose statement to bring you back to why you are doing what you are doing.
One size doesn’t fit all
My children are so different. I look at all of them and think not one of them is the same. Some are going to excel in certain areas while others are going to struggle. The curriculum I bought for the first student, might not necessarily work for the next. And you know what, that’s ok.
Stop trying to fit the mold
Do what the Lord as called YOU to do. Oh, the mommy wars that have taken place. Everyone has the “right” way to go about educating, birthing, parenting the list goes on. Friend, I encourage you to focus on YOUR calling. Stop trying to be the Pinterest mom. Stop trying to be your best friend. Have the freedom to be you.
You are the best mom for your kids
This one has taken me awhile to embrace. Sometimes I question whether I am the best mom. In my days of being low, I wonder why the Lord entrusted me with these blessings at all. But in His great mercy, He shows me that I’m perfect for them. He knew what he was doing when he gave me these littles and bigs altogether. I learn from them, and they learn from me. Jesus is in the business of sanctification for us all. Jesus doesn’t make mistakes.
Stop striving for the world’s standards of success
The world’s view of achievement can look very different than God’s. It’s tough because we only have the world’s standards to go by as far as academics are concerned. But the Lord has called us to be the parents of our kids. He has given us the tools to do the job. Let him be the guide.
Homeschooling won’t save your child
Jesus saves. As a mother, this was a tough lesson to learn. Of course I never actually thought that I could save my child. But when that day came and I heard the words “mom, I’m an atheist” it turned my world upside down. Those words made it real. No amount of guarding or sheltering could prepare me for that moment. Only, Jesus saves. Praise the Lord that He is mighty to save.
Every Child is a masterpiece
In God’s creativity, he has blessed us with different personalities and gifts within our home. It is our privilege to walk alongside them to unlock the particular path that the Lord has for them. That is indeed a great privilege.
Enjoy your kids
If you are like me you get caught up in all of the to-dos and crossing them off of your list that you forget to stop and enjoy you children. Invest time into their hobbies or likes. Find ways to interact with just them on a level of something that they enjoy. Sometimes I get so caught up in spending time with them on a particular subject that I feel like I’ve been with them all day. However, there is something to be said for spending time with them doing things they enjoy.
Praise and encourage
Being a born pessimist I tend to dwell on the negative or the “needs improvement” attributes of my children. I have found that praise and encouragement speak life. While working on the deficits in behavior or character, it can feel like everything about your kid needs help. Look for the positive. Find the positive and speak it out loud. Think about it as an adult how it would feel to have constant “constructive criticism.” I don’t know about you, but I’d lose it if all I heard were the things I need to work on day in and day out. Speak life, mom.
I close with this. Philippians 1:6, And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. Praise the Lord for his faithfulness. Remember that your tasks are complete in Christ. He will be with you each step of the way as you lead those little hearts and minds.
Go on and mommy well.