I am a self-proclaimed half crunchy mama. According to urban dictionary, “A Crunchy Mama is a “Mother, who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, babywearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and prepare all-organic foods.”
While I am a home birthing, home schooling, baby-wearing co-sleeper I wouldn’t necessarily identify with the hippy aspects of that definition. Our family doesn’t wear organic clothes, eat only organic foods or do cloth diaper. (too much work)
Certainly I see significant benefits in the crunchy choices that we embrace. And for those mamas who are full on crunchy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But, I have been running in the “crunchy mama” circles for quite a while now and would like to address what I call “crunchy mama pride.”
In all of the groups that I have been in I have noticed a trend. Although most hearts are in the right place as for the why of wanting to do things frugally, at home, etc. I believe for a lot of us crunchy mamas, we are guilty of making our crunchy ways an idol and source of pride.
I know in my own heart I became prideful of the fact that I homebirth, homeschool, baby wear, etc. I had become so proud that I was able to do these things. That pride then turned into the judgement of others. I would think to myself, “Why aren’t you doing it this way? If you only knew what I knew, you totally would. Please allow me to educate you.”
Judgement is just another manifestation of pride. Thinking of yourself higher than you ought to think, is a sin. As it says in Romans 12:3, For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.
Remember, sisters; it’s the grace of God that allows us to do these things. But for the grace of God, we could do nothing. The Bible also says God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble. (James 4:6) We need to be humble in our interactions with others. While we sit on our high horses proclaiming what we know to be the truth we are hurting fellow sisters. I have seen it first hand.
Seated in a group of crunchy mamas, everyone talking about their birthing experiences and how awesome they were, you have that one mom mutter under her breath, “Yeah I had a hospital birth.” The room gets silent, and the moms all start thinking and even sometimes say, “Why on earth would she do such a thing?”
“Does she not know?”
“Has she not heard?”
Sisters stop. Stop creating division. Stop judging. God calls different people to different things. (1Cor 12:12-27)
It’s not about us. And Praise God it is not about us. Praise God for the struggles. Praise Him for the successes. Praise God all the time because he alone is worthy to be praised.
Praise God for the ability we have to choose and in your choices. But don’t forget to praise Him that we are not all alike.
It is my hope that we as sisters can come together in our different choices and love one another as Christ loves us. We can encourage one another in the places that the Lord has called us to. The Christian life is not one size fits all.
God has blessed each and every one of us with different families, and he has gifted us with different talents and bends to use for His glory. Let’s celebrate and employ our differences for his Glory to build each other up and not to tear each other down.