My best friend’s mother passed away recently. She was 86 years old, and she lived a full life. Proverbs 31:28 says, Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. It was apparent that her children rose up and called her blessed.
This woman finished well. She was generous, a hard worker, and a servant. She raised her family to love God. She instilled in her children to work hard, to be committed, to serve others and much more. She will be truly missed by many.
I couldn’t help but sit at the funeral and think of what people were going to say at my funeral. What do I want to be remembered for?
You’ve probably heard it said, “start with the end in mind.” That has become very real to me lately as my Husband and I have been listening to a book called “Living Forward” by Micheal Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy. It is a book about life planning.
One of the first things they have you do is write your eulogy. They have you write what you would like others to say about you when you are gone from this earth. The goal is to be specific about what your spouse, children, family, co-workers, and community would say about you when you are gone.
After you finish writing this, he then takes you through the steps for you to become the person you just wrote about.
It is a powerful exercise. One that takes a lot of thinking, praying, and examination. They recommend that you take a whole day to yourself to devote the time and brainpower necessary to complete. Afterwards, though you come away with a clear vision of where your life needs to go.
If you’re like me, you go through life getting through the days. You tend to let life happen to you. I tend to be overcommitted and not focused on doing a few things well.
Something that really resounded with me in the book was the quote “Say no to good so you can say yes to great.” I think that is so freeing and powerful. Many things are out of our control, but there are many more things that are in our control. It all starts with a plan. Something that you look back on daily, weekly, monthly to remind yourself of your goals.
That memorial for my friend’s mother was a great reminder for me. I am determined to live with the end in mind. I want to Love the Lord with all of my heart soul mind and strength, to model Christ and the Church in my marriage. To raise my children to love Jesus. And teach them to serve him by being an example of Christ to them.
A fellow blogger and speaker I enjoy, Heidi St. John, often says “We are parenting our Grandchildren.” We are parenting the next generation. That is so true. We need to leave a legacy. At the end of my life, I want my children to rise up and called me blessed. I want the Lord to tell me well done my good and faithful servant you have finished well. I am not going to get there by drifting through this life. But by living in the Spirit, with purpose, with focus, and with the end in mind.
What about you? Are you leaving a legacy? Are you living with the end in mind?
by Michael Hyatt (Author) and Daniel Harkavy (Author)