Mom, do you feel like you are losing control of your children? Are you constantly repeating yourself? Are you frustrated and overwhelmed?
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my home is a war zone. I feel like I’m walking onto a battlefield every morning. It’s thoroughly exhausting. In a parenting class many years ago our pastor told us “We don’t negotiate with terrorists.” Sadly, I’ve been finding myself doing more and more of that a lot lately.
When we find ourselves in this situation, we have two options. We can either take cover and pretend everything is alright or we can face the “enemy” head-on.
If you find you are constantly repeating yourself, out of routine, or wondering what your kids are doing with their time, you need to go back to the basics.
If you want a job done right, you should do it yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying but does this have to be true? I often find myself trying to do every job in my house. singlehandedly. Unfortunately, I am completely outnumbered. Nine people live in my house, and I’m just one person fighting against all of them quite frequently.
It is imperative for our children to learn to help. However, I find myself getting frustrated because they aren’t doing things exactly how I would. Even worse, I catch them shirking a responsibility that they know exactly how to do. It’s a job in and of itself just to inspect what they are doing.
One day their bosses, spouses, children, even they will thank you if you teach them while they are young how to work hard and do a job well.
Today, I want to share some of my favorite tips on how I get my troops assembled to do a job to the best of their ability.
The Middle School years of our daughters bring with them a lot of changes both physiological and emotional. They are entering into a season of not being a young child anymore, but they are also not quite adults. They are trying to figure out who they are.
As if elementary age squabbles weren’t bad enough, we now get the joy of entering the years of “mean girls”. Girls can be so brutal at this age. The teasing, gossipping and comparing just to name a few, can be such a drain on the emotional stability of these young girls.
It is our job as parents to walk alongside our children to help them navigate these relationships well. As with any age in parenting, we are equipping our children to be successful adults.
Summer is fast approaching. And with that, our kids will be spending much more unstructured time together. This proposition comes with its positives and negatives. Many of my homeschooling friends are anxious for the break from such a strict regimented schedule. Although most of us are still doing at least something educational through the summer, it is hopeful with a little less responsibility.
While this break is nice to have, we have a mantra in our house. “Responsibility before Recreation.” What that means is before we are allowed to do something fun we need to have our responsibilities finished.
I have found that even though it’s summer we need to have some structure still in place for our day. If not chaos and mayhem ensue. Pretty quickly I realize my children don’t always like each other and the bickering starts. I’m not a creative genius by any means but from trial and lots of error I’ve had to come up with a plan for our summer, so we all survive unscathed.
As a new mom, I remember when my first daughter was 18 months old, and the pressure to start potty training was all around. Even with the influence I held off until about two before starting.
When we began the process, I decided to reward our daughter with candy. Every time she used the potty she got candy. Well as you can imagine she decided that she needed to go quite frequently.
After we had her “trained”, we ran out of candy, so my husband decided that she no longer needed candy. Well needless to say my daughter thought otherwise, and she decided after being trained for months that she would stop. Completely.
In a house of nine you can imagine we have a lot of mouths speaking pretty much all of the time. Not to mention, as I have said before, we have a family most would describe as spicy. This potentially lethal combination leads to a great need to turn to Scripture for direction on how to deal with this.
The Bible, specifically Proverbs, has a lot to say about the tongue. It can be used to build up or tear down, to speak life or death.
I recently posted on how are children are image bearers, how they absorb everything they hear and see us do. Well, mothers here are ten great verses for ourselves as well our children to memorize and hide in our hearts. The hope is in times of conflict we can speak life into the lives of those precious people that God has entrusted to us.
Have you ever walked in on your sweet innocent little preschooler saying some terrible phrase to their sibling or better yet their toys? And at that moment, you totally know that phrase has come out of your mouth on many an occasion.
When my daughter was about 3, I walked into her room, and she was yelling at her baby dolls calling them “freakin morons”. She had the situation correct; she was “driving” in her pretend car, and was having some road rage at the other “drivers.”
While It was hard not to laugh hearing those words come out of her mouth, it also saddened my heart. This particular toddler was the first one in our house, and as we have added additional little minions, we realize now that they pretty much pick up on everything.
Today my little two-year-old, who is still a bit of a mute, gave me the cutest little motion. A gesture that said, “come here mommy, sit down right beside me and put on Praise Baby so we can snuggle.” How in the world could I say no to that?
To be honest; there was a part of me that did say no. Because let’s be honest, mom, a two-year-old held captive watching a screen is a perfect time for me to get things done right? But at what cost?
Oh dear mom. I remember the days when I had 3 kids under 3. I currently have five under the age of six and boy, do I know the struggle is real!
Friends, I have experienced homeschooling a high schooler, a middle schooler and two early elementary kids, while juggling the demands of a preschooler, toddler and a newborn. Let me be honest with you, this can be a very dark time.
From 4 to 6pm my children turn into something that I do not recognize and without fail chaos ensues in our home. Witching Hour has arrived.
I don’t know if they are just tired, bored, or hungry, but in this whirlwind of crazy, I feel like I’m putting out fires at every turn. I know it’s coming, each and every day. Yet, I find myself just suffering through until Daddy walks in the door and I throw the children at him because I can’t take it anymore.