Mom, do you feel like you are losing control of your children? Are you constantly repeating yourself? Are you frustrated and overwhelmed?
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my home is a war zone. I feel like I’m walking onto a battlefield every morning. It’s thoroughly exhausting. In a parenting class many years ago our pastor told us “We don’t negotiate with terrorists.” Sadly, I’ve been finding myself doing more and more of that a lot lately.
When we find ourselves in this situation, we have two options. We can either take cover and pretend everything is alright or we can face the “enemy” head-on.
If you find you are constantly repeating yourself, out of routine, or wondering what your kids are doing with their time, you need to go back to the basics.
Recently, in conversation with an elderly friend, the question was asked, “What is one of the biggest things you have learned in all of your years of mothering and being a wife?”
She thought for a minute, and her response was, “I learned that I needed to wake up each morning and purpose to die to self that day: especially in the years of mothering. If I didn’t purpose to do this, things usually went awry.”
There is so much truth in that statement. I started to think about my daily interactions. What are things that anger me? Why do I get so frazzled? Why do I get overwhelmed?
As summer is gearing up, I wanted to discuss a topic near and dear to the mother of a large family. Vacations.
Packing for a family of 9 is no easy task. I am not a super organized person to begin with, and it definitely doesn’t come naturally to me. Those around me namely my husband wishes that were not the case, but hey I have my own list for him. I am just kidding.
When we are getting ready for a trip, this is usually the prime opportunity for stress paralyzation to kick in.
If you missed my previous blog about dealing with Stress paralyzation I define it as When you are so overwhelmed with your current to-do list that you can only sit and scroll through your Facebook feed.
We have all been there when we have too many things to do, and we lack the ability just to focus on one and get that thing done. Packing does this for me! I procrastinate until the very last minute and then I’m crazy. I have learned the hard way more than I’d care to talk about that this is not a good plan.
As a new mom, I remember when my first daughter was 18 months old, and the pressure to start potty training was all around. Even with the influence I held off until about two before starting.
When we began the process, I decided to reward our daughter with candy. Every time she used the potty she got candy. Well as you can imagine she decided that she needed to go quite frequently.
After we had her “trained”, we ran out of candy, so my husband decided that she no longer needed candy. Well needless to say my daughter thought otherwise, and she decided after being trained for months that she would stop. Completely.
I survived! I made it! I went shopping with five kids under the age of six. And I am proud to report not a single breakdown! This accomplishment is huge.
I made four different stop and managed to get all of my groceries for the week. Yeah, I can barely believe it myself.
If you are a mama of littles, you know the relief after a successful shopping trip. You also know the look of an unsuccessful excursion. The whining, the crying, the begging, the throwing, the random things in the cart at checkout. Sometimes it keeps me awake at night.
But this week I made it.
In a house of nine you can imagine we have a lot of mouths speaking pretty much all of the time. Not to mention, as I have said before, we have a family most would describe as spicy. This potentially lethal combination leads to a great need to turn to Scripture for direction on how to deal with this.
The Bible, specifically Proverbs, has a lot to say about the tongue. It can be used to build up or tear down, to speak life or death.
I recently posted on how are children are image bearers, how they absorb everything they hear and see us do. Well, mothers here are ten great verses for ourselves as well our children to memorize and hide in our hearts. The hope is in times of conflict we can speak life into the lives of those precious people that God has entrusted to us.