For years I have held to a conviction to allow the Lord plan my family. Currently, we have a one-year-old and by this time I historically would be expecting our next child.
I need, to be honest, I’m in a battle with the Lord right now. For many reasons, I believe that I want to be done with childbearing.
Life is chaotic.
I’m growing weary of having infants.
I’m ready to focus on having older children and doing fun things that sometimes you can’t do with littles.
I want to enjoy “retirement” someday.
I want to have time left with just hubby and me to enjoy “single” life.
In our world of social media, HGTV, and beach body mamas it’s so easy to fall into the trap of being discontent. Comparing ourselves to others or the unrealistic perception we have of others makes our heart yearn to be like them, to have what they have, to do what they do.
Humanity is in a constant battle of lust; the intense desire for more. We want what we don’t have, and we want it now. This attitude is not only reserved for stuff. We, as moms, can pretty much be discontent about anything and everything our marriage, children, money, house, body the list goes on.
We find ourselves making statements like, “if only” or “when I get ‘this'” then I’ll be happy.
Sadly as we fall into discontentment, our joy goes right along with it. The constant chase for contentment only breeds more discontentment. It’s a vicious cycle.
In our sinful nature, it is never enough, and it will never be enough. We need to learn to be content and fulfilled completely with Christ.
There is an adage, “You never see a hearse pulling a U-Haul.” Recently my husband and I were in Los Angeles. He had work to do so I thought I would go and spend some much needed quiet time away from the din of the homestead.
In some of the down time, we had an opportunity to go exploring in the city. We walked around Hollywood enamored by some of the stars represented there on Hollywood Boulevard. We went down to the Venice canals and walked around looking at homes that seemed to come right out of the pages of a magazine.
The day before my son’s graduation I completely lost my voice. I couldn’t believe it. Considering I was supposed to speak at his graduation which made it all the worse. However as I looked to the Lord, it turned out to be quite the blessing. When you start surrendering and praying for growth the Lord can get pretty creative with his teaching methods.
Nervous and emotional at the prospect of speaking in front of a crowd of children and parents, the Lord was teaching me to rely solely on his strength to get through. In the end, I survived and people were able to hear me albeit with the aid of electronics.
In a house of nine you can imagine we have a lot of mouths speaking pretty much all of the time. Not to mention, as I have said before, we have a family most would describe as spicy. This potentially lethal combination leads to a great need to turn to Scripture for direction on how to deal with this.
The Bible, specifically Proverbs, has a lot to say about the tongue. It can be used to build up or tear down, to speak life or death.
I recently posted on how are children are image bearers, how they absorb everything they hear and see us do. Well, mothers here are ten great verses for ourselves as well our children to memorize and hide in our hearts. The hope is in times of conflict we can speak life into the lives of those precious people that God has entrusted to us.
You aren’t good enough. You can’t succeed. You are a failure. Your butt does look fat in those jeans. In fact, you are ugly.
Do you hear these same voices in your head? How about this one?
“You are the only one in the world that struggles with “that.”
“We wouldn’t want people to think that about you.”
These, my friends, are lies. Lies that the enemy tells us to convince us that we aren’t good enough, strong enough, or pretty enough.