Today was one of those days where I was counting down the minutes until bedtime. If one more person under 3 feet tall says my name, I think I’m going to explode, and it isn’t going to be pretty. I tried to do all of the right things. I made sure that my quiet time was a priority, ate healthily, avoided sugar, and gave each kid undivided attention. But as the day draws to a close I am done.
Let’s face it not every day can be an exceptional day, even if we do all of the right things. We are a bunch of sinners living together in close spaces. As I sit down to gain some sanity at the end of my day, I remind myself of some truths, that I would like to share with you moms.
These days won’t last forever. Cherish the moments, yes even the bad ones. I often think of my mom, who lost my brother at the age of seventeen. For her even after a rough day, she would give anything to pick up after my brother again, to hear his loud voice, screams, or laughs.
My Grandma told me once that each day she would remind herself that tomorrow her kids were going to be a day older. How she spent her day determined whether that was something to be grateful for or sorrowful over.
Having now nursed six babies in my motherhood journey, I can tell you that it hasn’t always been easy. One would think that it would come completely natural, but unfortunately, that is not always the case.
Right off the bat let me say it can be painful at first. Usually, the reason for this is a bad latch especially if the pain continues past the first week or so.
Within the first week, you can get chapped and be in pain just because it’s all new, even if you are doing everything entirely correct. My favorite balm to help soothe chapped nipples is a product called Earth Mama Angel Baby Non GMO Natural Nipple Butter Nursing Cream. I know, I know that names of some of these things make me laugh, but if you are in enough pain to need it, you will not care what they call it.
Mom, do you feel like you are losing control of your children? Are you constantly repeating yourself? Are you frustrated and overwhelmed?
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my home is a war zone. I feel like I’m walking onto a battlefield every morning. It’s thoroughly exhausting. In a parenting class many years ago our pastor told us “We don’t negotiate with terrorists.” Sadly, I’ve been finding myself doing more and more of that a lot lately.
When we find ourselves in this situation, we have two options. We can either take cover and pretend everything is alright or we can face the “enemy” head-on.
If you find you are constantly repeating yourself, out of routine, or wondering what your kids are doing with their time, you need to go back to the basics.
Recently, in conversation with an elderly friend, the question was asked, “What is one of the biggest things you have learned in all of your years of mothering and being a wife?”
She thought for a minute, and her response was, “I learned that I needed to wake up each morning and purpose to die to self that day: especially in the years of mothering. If I didn’t purpose to do this, things usually went awry.”
There is so much truth in that statement. I started to think about my daily interactions. What are things that anger me? Why do I get so frazzled? Why do I get overwhelmed?
As the mother of a large family, one would think that we have had years of athletics in our home. My husband always enjoyed sports and athletic competitions of any type so of course, our children would be athletes, right? Wrong.
Our first two children were very apathetic to sports, so our family is new to the world of youth sports. My seven-year-old son, whom we affectionately refer to as Triple-O, decided on a whim this past summer, he wanted to play football. And if you know him, you probably would have thought him the least likely of our children to follow in his father’s footsteps.
However, at seven, here we are jumping all into the world of youth football. We practice three times a week with games on the weekends. It has become a family affair. We go to practice with all of the brood. We have traveled around the country. It has been a great way to get out in the fresh air and cheer on our little guy.
But I digress.
About six weeks into the season I noticed my little guy starting to limp. We visited the trainer and got diagnosed with every runner’s nightmare, shin splints.
My best friend can clean a surface faster than anyone I know. I, on the other hand, get stress paralyzed by the smallest of crumbs. Eventually, I get it done, but organization and task management are far from my natural skill set.
Watching her, with hopes that I could learn from her magical skills, I noticed that she never leaves an area until she has completed it. She’ll make piles of things that go elsewhere, but she is completely present while she is doing the job.
I have learned this same lesson, the hard way, applies to with other areas including homeschooling. We as the mom/teacher have to multitask to some degree. If we don’t few things would ever get accomplished, but I do believe there are unnecessary distractions that if we would just be all in where ever we are that we could get to the other jobs and do them well.
Mom, are you busy and overwhelmed? Do you find yourself committing to too many things and not finding joy in the things that you do? Could it be that you are doing too much? Or could it be that you aren’t doing the right things to accomplish your goals?
Early in my mothering when I had two children and was in the transition of quitting my job and being a full-time stay at home mom, I was busy. We had things jam packed into every day keeping us too busy even to spend an evening at home.
I learned very quickly that this lifestyle wasn’t conducive to being a productive stay-at-home mom because I was never actually home. I wasn’t busy doing bad things I just wasn’t busy doing the right things.
In the last seven years, I have birthed five children. This season has looked much different than the previous. I quickly found out that for my children’s sanity as well as mine, it was best for me just to be at home caring for and schooling.
Being a self-proclaimed half crunchy mama, I love wearing my babies and babywearing is a pretty big deal in the circles that I run.
Full on crunchy mamas will tell you that babywearing is an absolute must for the first three to twelve months your baby’s life. Some will even say there is another trimester after birth that you are to wear your child for its emotional well being. While I am not completely in their camp, I do see numerous benefits to baby wearing.
I’ve tried to cook, clean, and fold laundry all while wearing a baby and I have yet to get completely comfortable in doing so. Even so, I do love wearing my babies.
Surprise mom-to-be, you’re pregnant! You have nine months to prepare for this precious event. So what are the must haves? Although every store, magazine and online resource are clamoring to load you up with all of the “essentials,” I tend to take a more simplified approach. So after six cycles of pregnancy and delivery, today I want to break down my list of prenatal and postpartum must haves as well as hacks that have become essential to my maternity journey.
There are so many “experts” on everything so don’t hear me saying that you must do these things. I offer them up solely as what I have discovered over a decade of child rearing. I want this to be a starting point for new or young mothers to begin building their list of birthing dos and don’ts.
If you want a job done right, you should do it yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying but does this have to be true? I often find myself trying to do every job in my house. singlehandedly. Unfortunately, I am completely outnumbered. Nine people live in my house, and I’m just one person fighting against all of them quite frequently.
It is imperative for our children to learn to help. However, I find myself getting frustrated because they aren’t doing things exactly how I would. Even worse, I catch them shirking a responsibility that they know exactly how to do. It’s a job in and of itself just to inspect what they are doing.
One day their bosses, spouses, children, even they will thank you if you teach them while they are young how to work hard and do a job well.
Today, I want to share some of my favorite tips on how I get my troops assembled to do a job to the best of their ability.