Mom, do you feel like you are losing control of your children? Are you constantly repeating yourself? Are you frustrated and overwhelmed?
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my home is a war zone. I feel like I’m walking onto a battlefield every morning. It’s thoroughly exhausting. In a parenting class many years ago our pastor told us “We don’t negotiate with terrorists.” Sadly, I’ve been finding myself doing more and more of that a lot lately.
When we find ourselves in this situation, we have two options. We can either take cover and pretend everything is alright or we can face the “enemy” head-on.
If you find you are constantly repeating yourself, out of routine, or wondering what your kids are doing with their time, you need to go back to the basics.
Recently, in conversation with an elderly friend, the question was asked, “What is one of the biggest things you have learned in all of your years of mothering and being a wife?”
She thought for a minute, and her response was, “I learned that I needed to wake up each morning and purpose to die to self that day: especially in the years of mothering. If I didn’t purpose to do this, things usually went awry.”
There is so much truth in that statement. I started to think about my daily interactions. What are things that anger me? Why do I get so frazzled? Why do I get overwhelmed?
I can remember the day so clearly. I was seven months pregnant leaving from a doctor’s appointment when I got the call. It was my mom on the other end of the phone, and she said, “You need to get to the hospital there has been an accident. I don’t know any details but please just get there as fast as you can.” Immediately I broke down; I knew this wasn’t going to be good.
We reached the hospital, and as I ran in frantically, it’s like they knew who we were. I said, “There’s been an accident.” The nurse came to my side and guided me to a small room. I had no idea what this room meant. I had never been in this situation before. My parents were in the small room waiting, and they delivered the news, “Chrissy Troy is gone.” I remember the pain in my heart; there was a physical pain I felt when I heard the news. I can only imagine what my parents felt. I remember having to tell each and every family member that arrived after me. It was the most painful experience of my life.
The day before my son’s graduation I completely lost my voice. I couldn’t believe it. Considering I was supposed to speak at his graduation which made it all the worse. However as I looked to the Lord, it turned out to be quite the blessing. When you start surrendering and praying for growth the Lord can get pretty creative with his teaching methods.
Nervous and emotional at the prospect of speaking in front of a crowd of children and parents, the Lord was teaching me to rely solely on his strength to get through. In the end, I survived and people were able to hear me albeit with the aid of electronics.
School is technically out for the summer or at least very close, but for most of you home educating moms it’s never really over, now is it? We all have those few straggler subjects, doesn’t everyone at least have math to do all summer?? And even when we are “done” we still have to plan for the upcoming year.
From an academic standpoint, I don’t feel like we have had a phenomenal year. But does any home educating mom ever feel that way? When I look back on what we accomplished or didn’t accomplish, I am reminded that the Lord directs my ship. He will finish the work that we started this year. I know we grew in a lot of areas both academic and experiential.
I recently read a book called Strengths Finder 2.0, in hopes of finding out where my strengths lie. I often struggle to see what I am talented in and find myself in a comparison game with other moms. I look at all of these great projects that other moms are doing. Their homeschool looks so fun at least on the outside, but mom, I’ve discovered something about that perceived outward appearance.
I have been homeschooling for what seems like forever. It is hard to believe it has only been ten years. And it is even harder to believe I have close to twenty more to go.
Its been a sanctifying process for me as well as my children. The Lord has been gracious and continues to grant us grace to get through each and every day, month, and year. He has given me so many lessons in this journey so far and today I want to share those with you.
These lessons have not come easy. They have come through very hard days, but the Lord is faithful to continue molding us to be more like Him. Praise the Lord! In this post, I want to highlight my top 10 lessons for you mom. I want you to be encouraged whether you are just starting out or need a reminder of the lessons the Lord has taught you.
In a house of nine you can imagine we have a lot of mouths speaking pretty much all of the time. Not to mention, as I have said before, we have a family most would describe as spicy. This potentially lethal combination leads to a great need to turn to Scripture for direction on how to deal with this.
The Bible, specifically Proverbs, has a lot to say about the tongue. It can be used to build up or tear down, to speak life or death.
I recently posted on how are children are image bearers, how they absorb everything they hear and see us do. Well, mothers here are ten great verses for ourselves as well our children to memorize and hide in our hearts. The hope is in times of conflict we can speak life into the lives of those precious people that God has entrusted to us.
Today my little two-year-old, who is still a bit of a mute, gave me the cutest little motion. A gesture that said, “come here mommy, sit down right beside me and put on Praise Baby so we can snuggle.” How in the world could I say no to that?
To be honest; there was a part of me that did say no. Because let’s be honest, mom, a two-year-old held captive watching a screen is a perfect time for me to get things done right? But at what cost?
Do you feel your workload only grows and never gets done? Do you sit back and wonder at the end of some days what exactly you did today? If so, know that you are not alone!
Oh, how the day can so quickly spiral completely out of control. Finding the balance between the chores & errand list, while handling the schooling needs of your kids, requires constant inspection and review. If this is you, then I urge you to keep reading. Ten years of homeschooling high schoolers to crawlers has taught me many lessons along the way to help alleviate some of the daily stresses. So without further ado, here are my best tips.
Oh dear mom. I remember the days when I had 3 kids under 3. I currently have five under the age of six and boy, do I know the struggle is real!
Friends, I have experienced homeschooling a high schooler, a middle schooler and two early elementary kids, while juggling the demands of a preschooler, toddler and a newborn. Let me be honest with you, this can be a very dark time.